The kindness that is my weakness

For as far back as I can remember I have always been described as nice, sweet kind etc. Now this would be all well and good if people actually treated one the way they were treated!
I have the uncanny ability to find the biggest A-holes who take kindness for weakness and friendliness for naivety!!
You know the kind little old lady that you offer to help her push her grocery cart to her car and she not only asks you to load her car but can you please place the heavy stuff on the bottom and watch her eggs because she wants all twelve when she gets home!
Then there's the boss who talks crazy to you because you have enough home training to address him as sir unlike the rest of your fellow employees who address him as "informally" as possible If they even address him or acknowledge him addressing them!!
My personal favorite are the disrespectful people (and you know who you are) who think that just because they breathe oxygen means the rest of the world are supposed to cater to their whims no matter how ridiculous the request is. for example I had a Perfect stranger see me at a gas station and ask me if I could give her a ride. When I ask her to what location she gets an attitude like I asked her for the ride and snaps "Well if that much of a problem, I'll just walk!" Now any normal person would have gotten in her car and said "cool I guess that problem is solved!" Not my dumb butt I say "Well where are you trying to go?" She replies "just up the street" I quickly let guilt take over and tell her to jump in and I'll get her to where she needs to go. She is Right, it is right up the street, at least after you get off of 94 jump on 35 south drive about 20 minutes exit onto France ave and drive up the street 6 more blocks!!! By this time I have used up the $20.00 worth of gas I had just pumpehd, I'm late picking up the kids from school and my Sweetie is on the phone with the FBI thinking I've been surely kidnapped! My passenger however skips out of the car without as much as a thank you!
Someday I am going to learn the art of no and be a professional A-hole myself but until then, what can I do for you today??

Angels in wrecked Reeboks!

I am reading this book for my Sociology called Wilding in America, and although I have only read several pages I am already so angry and frustrated! The book talks about people's prejudices, perceptions when it comes to other people. I would think that at some point in our culture that prejudice of any kind would finally be out of style. However, that's the beauty of bigotry, it runs rampant no matter your ethnicity, financial status or neighborhood! Much to my discomfort I must admit that I have my own stereotypes as well.
Of all the people that I have met in my life, the people who have reached out a helping hand to me in my time of need, have been people who they themselves have little or nothing. People that other people might give a wide berth as they pass by them with their nose in the air.
This is something that I have learned. Angels do not just pass their time flying randomly in the air flitting from troubled soul to troubled soul. Often times they walk here among us wearing shoes that we ourselves would deem to dirty or tight to wear. This makes me think of a song I used to hear when I was growing up, the only part I remember is this part, " What kind of church would my church be if every Christian were just like me" I know if they were like me we'd be in big trouble because I fall short on an hourly basis! According to God he made MAN in His image not just SOME man. This is something I will try to remember the next time I am to busy or think I look to good to spend some time chatting with a random stranger on the corner.

The Brighter Side Of Everything

I have heard of our world being described as everything from a zoo to a garden, personally I think it's more like a sea!! I say this because I feel like I am surrounded by crabs!!! Negativity is everywhere!! I myself enjoy playing a few tunes on my violin of self pity but for the most part I'd rather look at the brighter side of things that is just as easy to find if one looks as hard for it as they look for something to be unsatisfied or unhappy about!! Anyway for every hardship in my own life whether of my own making or not I have found one thing to be true that my dwelling on it doesn't change what happened! It doesn't change how much it hurts! Choosing to look at the brighter side does help one to heal and can even stop one from dwelling on something so much that they react in a way that can devastate their circumstances even more. I love the bright side. It 's the warm sunshine in this world of reality that can warm the coldest and scariest of situations. I will be forever convinced that I would be locked up either in jail or a mental facility if I chose to look at everything as a personal vendetta from a person or God. I will end this tirade with this simple point by saying this...While you fester over what someone has done to you and let it keep you up and preoccupy your time the one who wronged you is at home somewhere sleeping peacefully and not giving you a second thought! I wish I would have realized this in high school! :-)

The Gratitude of Tech-less wonder!!

I will be the first to admit that ever since highschool the wonders of the modern on-line communication has never interested me. I was more of a write it down on paper and read a book type of girl..........and then I went back to school!! I was forced to communicate via E-mails and texts and found that I actually enjoyed it!! As I spent day after day in school I begin to un-lock the mysteries of the wide world of the internet!! First I discovered Twitter via my Iphone and thats how it started, then facebook followed with its evil addictive power known as farmville! I dabbled a bit with Myspace but it held no real interest for me and soon I was reaching out for other forms of communication vessels......and that is when ......as chance would have it that my friend Mike introduced me to Blogger!!! Now I'm twitterpated, bloggbuggabooing facebooking fool!! And all this is only after two months, who knows what the next couple of months willl hold!! Consider yourself warned!!!!